Sleeping away from home (sleep overs)

Sleeping away from home means your child spends the night somewhere else. This could be: 

  • a sleepover at a friend’s house
  • a night with grandparents or other family
  • a school or recreation camp 

Sometimes you plan these nights ahead, and other times they happen suddenly, like during an emergency or family situation. Both are normal parts of your child growing up and becoming more independent. 

When is the right age for a sleepover?

There’s no set age when a child is ready for sleepovers. It depends on your child and your family. Every child grows at their own pace, and that’s normal. 

Think about things like: 

  • your child’s age and stage of development
  • how emotionally ready and mature they are
  • how well they know and trust the people they’ll stay with
  • how confident they feel asking for help 

Some kids feel ready for a first sleepover around 8 to 10 years old, while others feel ready earlier. Often, the first night away happens at a close relative’s house, where your child feels safe and familiar. 

How to get your child ready for a sleepover 

Sleepovers can feel exciting, but they can also make kids (and parents!) a bit nervous. Preparing together can make the experience easier and more fun. 

Find out more about the home and the people caring for your child. Talk with your child about: 

  • who will be there
  • what activities they might do
  • when you’ll pick them up 

Sharing this information helps your child feel safe, confident, and ready for the night. 

Talk to the other parent or carer early

Start the conversation ahead of time. Ask about: 

  • how they will supervise the kids
  • who will be there
  • what activities they have planned 

If it’s a school or sports camp, most share this information before the trip. Asking questions shows you care and helps you feel confident that your child is supported. 

Learn the plan

Find out what your child will do. If they plan to watch movies or play games online, check that the content suits their age.

Share your child’s bedtime routine

Tell the other parent or carer what helps your child sleep well, like their usual bedtime and calming habits. 
Pack familiar comfort items such as: 

  • a favourite toy
  • a nightlight
  • a bedtime book 

Familiar things help your child feel safe and relaxed. 

Visit the home if you can

Meet the other parent or carer and see where your child will stay. Ask about: 

  • how many adults will supervise
  • how well your child knows the people there
  • what safety measures are in place 

Knowing the people and environment builds your child’s confidence and helps you feel more at ease too. 

Practise scenarios with your child

Talk about what they could do if they wake up scared or need help. Practising what to say or who to talk to builds confidence and lowers worry.

Stay in touch

Explain how your child can reach you. Plan for a quick phone call before bed if they want to talk to you. 

Having a clear communication plan helps your child: 

  • build confidence
  • strengthen friendships
  • grow independence