Siblings of sick kids

They may hear or see things that they do not understand and cope with being away from one or both parents.

Here are some ways that you can support siblings before and during hospital admission.

Be sure to ask the care team about our playgrounds and Starlight express rooms.

Include siblings in conversations and reassure them

Include siblings in conversations about their brother or sister’s surgery.
Use simple explanations that they will understand.
It can be common for siblings to think that their thoughts or actions caused their brother or sister to become unwell, or worry that they will become sick themselves.
Reassure them that it is not their fault and that they can’t ‘catch’ a heart condition.

Siblings may worry about being left alone or their needs not being met.
Let them know who will be caring for them while you are at the hospital and when you'll be back.
Leave a special item that they associate with you to provide comfort.
Try to keep routines such as naps, meals and bedtimes as close to normal as possible.
If they attend school or childcare, let their teacher know what is happening so that they can provide support and watch for any changes in mood or behaviour.
Siblings may feel jealous of all the attention their brother or sister is getting.
Try to set aside some one-on-one time for them if possible so that they don’t feel left out.

Siblings may miss their brother or sister. Encourage them to make something for their sibling like a drawing or card
Provide them with the choice of visiting and if they choose to, explain what to expect (for example what they will see or hear)
Provide opportunities to play away from the bedside to help siblings cope with spending time at the hospital
Ask the hospital about playgrounds and the Starlight room.