Self-harm refers to an intentional act of inflicting physical pain to help cope with emotional or psychological distress. It can be a way to feel more in control or to escape overwhelming feelings. 

Children or adolescents who self-harm are at an increased risk of attempting suicide.

If you notice your child displaying signs of self-harming, it is normal to feel concerned Signs may include:

• irritability
• hiding their arms or legs with clothing, even in warmer weather
• utilising a family first aid kit more often
• hiding certain items, for example razor blades or knives.

How you respond as a parent can help your child feel supported and allow you to understand how they are feeling.

How to respond if your child is self-harming:

• stay calm
• speak openly and directly to the questions you have for your child
• remain non-judgemental
• reassure them that you’re always there for support- any time of day or night
• let them know strong emotions are normal
• provide first aid if necessary
• get support yourself if you’re feeling overwhelmed
• encourage professional help and keep the conversation going.

Suicide

Suicide is when a person takes their life voluntarily.

Suicidal thoughts are feelings that an individual has when they perceive life is too overwhelming. These thoughts can last a few seconds or can be ongoing.

Young adults who have suicidal thoughts often have a combination of

• a mental health condition, diagnosed or undiagnosed
• difficult life events such as past trauma or family conflict.

Those who are at a higher risk of attempting suicide include: 

• males
• people in rural and remote areas
• Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people
• people who identify as LGBTQ+
• people who self-harm
• people misusing alcohol or other drugs
• people who have experienced trauma or family conflict
• people who have attempted suicide before.

Having risk factors doesn’t mean a child or young adult will experience suicidal thoughts in their lifetime, but it's important to be aware. 

How to support a child who may be having suicidal thoughts:

• stay with them if you think they are at high-risk
• seek help immediately by calling Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Triple Zero (000)
• let your child know how important it is for them to stay in your life
• stay calm and speak directly
• remain non-judgemental
• make a support plan with your child, including trusted adults they can always talk to if they have similar thoughts in the future
• write down emergency contacts and trusted adults in your child’s phone.