Self-harm refers to an intentional act of inflicting physical pain as a coping strategy for psychological distress. 

It is a way of gaining back control over an emotional feeling or helping escape from them. Children or adolescents who self-harm are at an increased risk of attempting suicide. 

If your child is displaying signs of self-harming, such as trying to hide their arms or legs with clothing, utilising a family first aid kit more often, irritability or hiding certain items such as razor blades or knives it is normal to feel concerned. 

How you respond as a parent can help your child feel supported and give you insight into how they are feeling. 

Tips for responding to a child who may be self-harming: 

• stay calm and speak directly to the questions you have for your child
• remain nonjudgemental
• provide first aid if necessary
• reassure your child that you are there to support them at any time of day or night
• let your child know that it is common for emotions to express themself strongly and frequently
• seek help as a parent if you feel overwhelmed
• refer your child to professional help if they are ready for it and keep the conversation going. 

Suicide

Suicide is the act of taking one's life voluntarily. Suicidal thoughts are feelings that an individual has when they perceive life is too overwhelming. These thoughts can last a few seconds or can be ongoing. 

Young adults who have suicidal thoughts often have a combination of a mental health condition, diagnosed or undiagnosed, alongside difficult life events such as past trauma.

Those who are at a higher risk of attempting suicide include: 

• males
• people who live in rural and remote areas
• aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people
• people who identify as LGBTQ+
• people who self-harm
• people who misuse alcohol or other drugs
• people who have had traumatic events or family conflict
• people who have previously attempted suicide.

Having one or multiple risk facts doesn’t necessarily mean a child or young adult will have suicidal thoughts in their lifetime. 

Tips for responding to a child who may be having suicidal thoughts: 

• stay with your child if you think they are high-risk
• seek help immediately by calling Lifeline on 13 11 14 or calling Triple Zero (000)
• Let your child know that it is important for them to stay in your life
• stay calm and speak directly
• remain nonjudgemental
• make a pact with your child that you will always support them and for them to reach out to you or another trusted adult if they have suicidal thoughts in the future
• write down a list of trusted adults you both trust and make sure they are in your child’s phone.