Recognising mental health concerns

As a parent, at times, you may have concerns about your child’s mental health. As your child develops, their behaviour displays in various ways and they may express themselves differently than you expect. 

Some of these behaviours are a completely normal part of development. They are often motivated by a combination of biological, psychological and social needs. 

Recognising the signs that your child may need support will help give you confidence and allow them to feel heard in a safe space. 

Children and young adults often don’t express how they are feeling due to: 

  • thoughts of helplessness
  • the perception that no one will listen or understand
  • the fear of judgement or stigma
  • the fear of consequences
  • a worry they won’t be taken seriously.

This may be even more pronounced for children who are neurodivergent, have learning difficulties, are living in care, identify as LGBTQ+ or have had significant life events.  

Childhood development is a period of rapid change, so separating the process of growth from the symptoms of mental ill health can be difficult. The more you understand the subtle differences in your child, the more you can identify if there is cause for concern.  

Signs and symptoms of mental health concerns

  • Trouble sleeping or constantly overtired
  • Consistent low mood such as sadness for more than 2 weeks
  • Sudden mood or behavioural changes
  • Irritability
  • Fluctuations in weight (weight gain or weight loss)
  • Loss of appetite or significant change in dietary intake
  • A drop in academic performance
  • Behaving in a way they have outgrown (eg. Wetting the bed or sucking their thumb)
  • Withdrawal of regular social situations, friends or family
  • Self-harm or suicidal thoughts 

It’s important to note that warning signs of mental health concerns can present themselves in many different ways and could be a combination of subtle changes. Talking to your child about any concerns can be an easier way to understand what they are going through and offer support.  

Children's behaviour becomes more sophisticated and complex as they grow and their needs change. Children learn about what behaviours are expected of them from the people around them. As they develop, they become better at knowing how they feel and controlling their actions. 

Seek appropriate help

Don’t try to diagnose your child with a specific mental health condition. It is best to seek the help of a healthcare provider, such as your family doctor, who has the resources and skills to identify and manage certain conditions.